are you ready? i have them. the best three words ever put together. sure you cna handle it?! ok, here they are….
“go ask dad/marv”
yup. its that simple! not only am i thrilled to finally have my husband home but so are our kids. my name gets said about 100 times less during the day. in the car when asked a question by our ever tenacious five year old i find that upon answering said question i get informed that, “no mom, i was talking to marv.” how sweet this is to my ears! now don’t get me wrong, i know i’m still the highest one on my little one’s list (as evidenced by his snuggles and sweetness) but it is rather nice to have a break from answering every question asked in the course of a day, car ride, 5 minute period! anyone with a young child knows exactly how many questions they can ask….and my son definitely is an over-achiever in this area! and while i wouldn’t for a second change this about him it is so nice to have someone else help answer some questions! it is also completely amazing to see how much j’s face lit up when seeing marv. its the kind of thing that just completely warms your heart. not to mention the mini-me he is becoming with marv. today after their boys only lunch date (so i could go catch up with some co-workers) j got in the car with his new toy and said, “mommy, you want to read the destructions?’….destructions….ahhh what a true marv-ism! j is definitely thrilled to have him home. and the older kid- man is he excited! he’s been sticking close to marv ever since he got home! finally he has someone to help with math and work on cars and do guy things! needless to say all is right in our house now for the three of us with our fourth member finally home! we spent the weekend in bliss hanging out and catching up and enjoying every second of being a family! this weekend…more of the same- both with enjoying being together and using my new favorite three words!
so in honor of my guys here’s a pic (it’s from a few years ago. i haven’t forced them to smile for the camera lately….but Easter is soon approaching!)….
to so many new things. learning new things to pack for kids lunches. and that packing your lunch is now the cool thing. when did packing your lunch become cool? and that kids are not as embarrassed of their parents anymore. or maybe that’s just my kid. and new ways to broach different subjects or new ways of having patience. i’m also diving into work. today (don’t judge me for the following statement please) i went to pick up my kid in my pajamas….i did have a jacket on top so that no one could really tell. but i literally didn’t leave my desk all day. ok, not entirely true. i did get up and take the kid to the bus stop. but then i got home and did not move from the computer. i didn’t eat, didn’t move, didn’t make any coffee, didn’t do anything but work until 2:05pm. i was a little busy to say the least. but it was a good busy. an accomplishing lots busy. and to make it better all the work i did was to submit a proposal on time today. so it was a gratifying busy. because i didn’t just do work because eventually i’ll have to have it final content ready or eventually i’ll have a deadline looming (which happens often enough, all the hurry up and wait work). but i worked without ending because i needed to fix so many mistakes that my technical team just seemed incapable of understanding why i wanted to actually improve the document! crazy i know but i like sending out great things instead of mediocre! so there i was, in the crazy (and still ridiculously unorganized) carpool line….in my pjs. thank goodness the car didn’t break down. that may have embarrassed the kid! so don’t judge, it was just one of those busy work days! but i successfully got both work and the kid picked up so mission accomplished right?! besides at least i have cute office help for my workday. (more cute pictures of her below)…
i also find myself diving into the odd but always funny conversations with some of my good friends here lately. but thank goodness for them and my husband. you know the conversations or times where you just decide to spaz out a little?!….so this is only something you can do to those extremely close to you. and then you have the difference between the husband and the girlfriends. thank goodness for some of my friends. oh the ridiculous crazy insane (probably funny) and random things i say. i’m definitely one of those people who can’t hold in feelings. i try. i really really do. but man, at the end of the day, i just can’t stomach holding things in. drives me nuts. now thankfully, i am blessed with an understanding husband who, while he may not like it, forgives my random outbursts or comments (hell maybe he chalks it up to tourettes, who knows!) and loves me just the same. but oh. there are times i would not have made it through were it not for the ability to have a sounding board. someone to shore up my arguments, or someone to whine endlessly to, or someone who takes my side just because its me and doesn’t care about the facts. i mean afterall….sometimes you don’t want logic. you just want someone to complain to!!! and only another woman can do that! read all the blogs, articles, etc….men try to solve the problem for you. women are great at just jumping in and saying “how dare they/it/etc!” now i have found the older i get that the number of things that really get to me are far less. mostly i’ve learned that there are so many things not worth the energy. then again, i think that’s part of not holding things in and dealing with and accepting things as they come. and then there are the things that just aren’t worth your time. like when having a conversation with someone who really doesn’t bother to actually listen…i’ve learned to just ruefully shake my head and not give it much thought. but with my crazy, constantly going life here lately i’m so glad to have someone to talk and be silly with!
but enough of the serious talk…lets take a moment to talk about how cute hilde is and how tough her life is. pictures below to prove the first point and to prove my second point every morning she gets into the chair by the window in my bedroom and lays there because as the sun rises, it hits that chair first and warms it…poor hilde….must be awful. to be that cute…
i have a five year old now. FIVE! wow. and i’m still as in love with him as i was the day he was born. i could sit and watch him smile and/or laugh while watching tom and jerry cartoons all day. seeing his little nose scrunch and he’s finding something amusing about jerry always besting tom. its remarkable. he’s so happy and full of life. literally the personality he has now astounds me. i’m not sure i have as much personality as he does nor am i sure i ever had that much personality. such a happy little one.
as stated j wanted a scooby doo and tom and jerry themed birthday party. and so he got one! his cousins came to visit and so we had a little party and lots of cake and cupcakes. aaron tried to race someone on the bikes, there was a bug hunt, and did i mention lots of cakes?!
but my favorite moment of the weekend was the hour before the party when we were just hanging out and enjoying lunch at the cav. it was the perfect unwinding for me after a nonstop bake-fest and the perfect gearing up for the party.
I’m so excited. I’m sitting in the carpool line for the first time ever! Waiting. Anxiously to pick up my kid! How cool is this?!!!! I have picked up celebratory milkshake (thank you mom for heads up on snack) and a small “happy first day” present for the kid! I’m so not sure what I’m doing. Wait why are they parking like that? Where am I supposed to park? What do I do? Oh my. This isn’t a line but more of a free for all parking lot and no one is making any sense. Quick someone come park next to me so I know I’m ok. Eeeeeeekkkkk! And what do I do when he gets to the car? Where do I go then? Man I hope he’s not the first one out. Ten more minutes. Why doesn’t this pick up make more sense? I’m so confused. This mom stuff is super hard. I need a drink. Wait there’s a kid. Nope not mine. Ok back to milkshake. Did I mention I needed a drink? Sigh. When is the bell going to ring? Then again if it rings and I’m in the wrong place am I going to get honked at or in trouble? Are there traffic police? Will I embarrass my kid? Oh my gosh I’m so over thinking this. Someone please come rescue me from myself. Where’s that drink. What’s for dinner? Did I figure out dinner? Oh crap why is no one beside me? Ok but there is someone behind me at least right? This is terrifying. No wonder parents send their kids on the bus. Thank goodness the kid is asleep in the back seat. Then again if I wake him up he will distract me from my stress right? Oh my gosh bell just hurry up so I can get out of here. Note to self do not be so early tomorrow. Ohhhh. There’s a mom getting out of her car. She has a high school jacket on- do I have to get one of those now? Should I? Holy wow this mom stuff is sooo confusing and wait there’s my kid…ok everything is ok now! And he’s smiling…yup, everything is good…!
remember…not so long ago, when saturdays were a welcome respite from the work week and yours to do with what you pleased? to sleep or wake, eat and sleep some more, watch mindless pointless tv or head to town (any town) and walk around aimlessly window shopping or work on vacuuming your car or getting an oil change….remember those days? yeah, me neither! ok, ok, in truth i do remember those days. but what i remember most about those days is that they were not as near entertaining or fun as my days now. and yes i get up earlier. but this past weekend i had the distinct pleasure of making pancakes for my kids. and watching and amazing at how two kids so different are both so wonderful as one sat there eating chocolate chip pancakes and the other turned his nose up at chocolate chip and was eating blueberry pancakes. so much fun to listen to the banter. and yes, ok, it sometimes means that the banter never stops and can’t be turned off but that’s ok too! it means its hard buying birthday presents because you are always with the kids but that’s ok too because the great thing about that is that you get to buy birthday presents and do all the special birthday things! like picking out what your birthday meal is and what kind of cake you want. j is getting a scooby doo themed cake and this may be the last year that he gets one that i design and create (i said that last year too i think!) from scratch. so far i’ve had fairly good success with replicating some design of action figure so we will see how scooby turns out. scooby for his cake and tom & jerry for the cupcakes. he apparently just couldn’t decide! although to make things a bit easier for myself i’m hiring out the cupcakes and only making the cake myself…..i’m practicing the KISS (keep it simple stupid) mentality for myself on some things!
and then there’s the adorable (yes i’m new to it so it is still adorable) when i hear “mom, aaron did this” or “j stop doing that” when the two boys are quarreling. it’s kinda neat to hear. and as i mentioned, since it is new still it is absolutely adorable to hear the sounds of siblings talking, disagreeing, telling each other what to do and so on…..and no, i’m not delusional, i’m sure at some point it may get old but i can’t help but smile now when it happens. because along with that it is also great to hear their squeals of laughter and jokes and fun times too.
continuing on, i also got to do the mom thing and take the boys to the dentist. the littlest one had his first ever check up and the older one ended up having a tooth pulled. and i can tell you i have an inkling of what a man feels like when his wife is in labor. my hand was squeezed six ways to sunday. it was purple by the time we left. but he did really well and is recuperating now and eating mashed potatoes and milkshakes…hard life for the kid!
but in actuality today was really a tough day. i was a little all over the place. somehow, someway i got everything done. amazingly. i feel as if i deserve a medal. really i do. kinda like i felt the first day after j was home from the hospital. all night long- every sound and every thing made me jump and stress and worry. and so when the sun was streaming in the windows and i was happily feeding my newborn i felt such a huge sense of accomplishment that he and i had survived the night together just us two! and today, i survived too! i got all my work done, had a first checkup for one child, a tooth pulled for the other, enrolled the oldest in school (he starts tomorrow), caught up with a friend, changed our cell plan over to a better option, activated our extra phone line for the oldest, got some promising news with regards to work things, and did i mention i got all my work done too??!!! wow!!! yup, medal for me today! so in light of my imperfect and completely crazy (albeit still pretty awesome) day i leave you all with the following funny blog post…(enjoy the smile and laugh):
so i went back to school yesterday…ok. no it wasn’t for me. i took aaron to get registered for school. having never registered a kid for school it was an exciting (and nervous) first. why do i still feel like a kid in school myself?! i’ve been out of high school for….well for a really long time. i don’t think i really want to do the actual math but i do remember seeing something about a 10 year reunion several years ago….(shudders).
but off we went to see the guidance counselor. who was actually quite nice and friendly. the rest of the school though…..wow. i am the wrong person i think to take a kid to register for high school. it’s hard for me to not look around and go: what the……! i did manage pretty well though. although now you have to get buzzed into the school. and then you follow signs to the main office. and then you get into the main office and there is a lovely (sarcasm intended) receptionist sitting there who can’t be bothered to help you and she motions you to an empty office and says, “sign in over there.”….ummm what? ok, where, how? i’m not computer illiterate by any means but some help would be appreciated. but nope! and then once you get a print out sticker (that i presume you are supposed to wear but that was so not happening) she tells you where the guidance counselor offices are and goes back to ignoring you. did i mention how she was a lovely woman? so personable and friendly……wait! so we go. and sit. and aaron asks me what SAT stands for while reading the posters on the wall and come to think of it i have no clue anymore. not sure i knew then. they’re just tests you have to take for college. who cares what the acronym stands for right? i mean, its not like you get points for knowing the acronym like you do for spelling your name correctly right? ….do you still get points for spelling your name correctly?
anyways, so then the guidance counselor comes out to meet us. the one nice spot in all the meetings. she was really friendly and very helpful and very knowledgeable and is working with us to process everything needed and get this kid in school soon! and then we were out the door…once we stopped by to “check out” of the computer system. which i’m not sure i did it correctly and i feel a little rebellious in hoping i didn’t and it screwed up the receptionist’s day by having to back track it and fix it! and then we were out the door. and i have to admit, if i’m being honest. i kind of felt like i was going to get into trouble for leaving the parking lot without a note!
but wow. high school. and cool! checking another thing off my “first time” mom list. first time i ever registered a kid for school! and wow, high school! some kids looked so young while other looked so old. and who in the world let them wear that to school? ……..and in that statement alone i have validated that i am indeed a mom! i also said a silent thank you for having a boy. and am considering promising my niece trips to paris for “appropriate” school clothes every year if she promises me never to dress like that! not that her parents would let her but ya know, as incentive to make it easier for them! i can bribe my niece…i’m just the aunt! 🙂
all in all. high school was an education to say the least. who knew, going back to school as an adult to register your kid could be so enlightening. i’m not entirely sure yet how i’ll be able to hold in my thoughts (and criticisms) for four years of the school system but i may surprise myself! i may learn (ha pun intended, aren’t i so funny) how to adjust to being the parent at school and not the student …or i’ll just leave it to my husband…..
the t-shirts and bumper stickers that say something like: welcome to my world, i’m a little crazy but they know me here (or something like that)…well that’s me this week! it is a wild week! but completely awesome! just when i think things are going one way…SURPRISE! my head is spinning trying to keep up with everything!
but that’s life. i adjust. and besides, if you look hard enough (or are just generally enthusiastic about life) you often don’t have to look very far to find the bright side of surprises. i mean some surprises come pretty apparent that all sides are good and bright. but some are so unexpected and require a lot of work to get them to fruition.
for instance- i’m slammed at work. unbelievably and completely slammed. and why is this a good thing? well, because i am not one of those people that sit around sunday night sad that monday is arriving. every once in a while yes. but i honestly love my job. i do what i enjoy, i work with great people- it’s great. i know, i’ve probably said that enough times on here but its true. and so being slammed at work is awesome because (a) job security. (b) new position being created to support me. (and c) that means i also have a new position slightly promoted to manage said person and eventually said team! see…only took 3 things to find the good! wait- all those were good! see!!!!
now we get to the craziness in my personal life. like being a single mom for the very short time being. but the best part about that? that i have a husband i’m crazy about and it is only for a short time! and then there’s how i am having to make a million calls and booking reservations and faxing information….why you ask? well because it’s official. happy valentine’s day to us! we have a new kid! ok so not a new kid as in the “new” sense but aaron will now be living with us full-time! and i am pretty excited! and i can only smile as i imagine God laughing at me. for a while i had given up the idea of wanting another kid. and lately have been mulling it over in earnest to decide once and for all whether or not to keep trying or to accept what we are already (so fortunately) have. and so now God has given me what i wanted…in a sense. i mean i have new kid! perhaps i meant in the baby sense but then again he has blessed us! and since aaron is only one of the two best kids ever then that just makes it perfect!
oh and more craziness in my personal life? just found Christmas presents i never sent! yikes!!
and then there’s the ever needed and required friend time. this pulls me in a million directions as well. good ways but still lots of things right? i am so behind on returning emails to old colleagues and friends. and trying to catch up with friends. and planning time to see everyone. and i must say i am so glad to have so many wonderful friends to reach out to…and especially those who are joining me for a girls only valentine’s night (pics to follow i am sure…or maybe not depending on the pics! lol!)…and wonderful friends who have not just me over for visits and sleepovers but also my entire brood as well as seen in the pic below. takes on a whole new meaning to asking “can i bring anything?”…..bring anything, yeah i’m sure you’d like me to bring something else in addition to the dog, cat, and kid (now 2 kids)! ..pic below! lol.
so my life may be a little crazy but it’s also absolutely wonderful! happy valentine’s day on this day where i definitely thankful for all the love in my life….then again i appreciate the love in my life everyday too!!